Perceive Yourself from Others Minds

In our normal routine, we meet different persons at different times and formulate opinions about them based on their appearance, behavior etc. Based on that we like some people, dislike others, hate some, love others, admire some, despise others and so on. We also complaint about other persons behavior sometimes. During a heated argument with someone, we might have become furious and uttered unwanted words and also received the same treatment. This is natural as substantiated by the Newton's third law which states that every action has equal and opposite reaction. So no problem till we get back equal treatment for our unwanted behaviour. But there are some other categories of persons who are most of the times at receiving end and are unable to respond to our behaviour. For example, our children, old parents, humble wives/husbands, household servants, office subordinates etc. We go to any extent of shouting at them in a fit of anger for a very little or no fault, caring a little what happens to them. I have seen some persons scolding their wives openly in the marketplace or beating their small children mercilessly. just because someone is dependent upon us, we should not try to dominate them like that or hurt their feelings and respect. Every person has some self respect, even young children. Ladies respect their parents but disregard their parents in law and husbands feel helpless. Also sometimes we might feel that a person unnecessarily gets angry with us during normal discussion. Sometimes normal discussions convert into scuffles and blows. Why it happens? A man with strong physique will have more impact on others while talking in angry mood than a person with normal physique. We should try to perceive our appearance to others in various moods and then evaluate the reaction of others towards us. We should also think from the point of view of others before deciding to blame them. Best thing is to apply to ourself what we advise others. If my son is not paying proper attention to his studies, I should try to find out what is the actual reason, what are the difficulties faced by him, whether physical or mental, whether he is being harassed by someone in his school/college, whether despite best efforts, he is unable to remember his lessons and gets scolded by teachers daily etc. This is the best way to be considerate to our near and dear ones and to others also. Consideration for others is the necessary approach one should adopt. Also encouraging others to discuss their problems is necessary. Children might be facing problems which they might be hesitating to discuss with parents, and instead be sharing with some unwanted friends or colleagues who instead of helping them, might get undue advantage themselves.